Failure. In love, a job, for training. It happens to everybody. But if it happens to you, you’re stuck with self-doubt, you can, your worth as a person. Therefore it is good for what you one time or another (even) fails, in perspective. How? So.
Failure is culture
We do not often realize that we live in a culture of comparison. Bigger car, more salary, more success in work, love, fun, you name it. It’s hard to compare to that yourself as a loner. If your car is not as large as that of the neighbors, as another is a nice (friend) in it and you just come back to stand alone if the other person get a job that you’re not able to get.. It is in such a culture is all too easy to feel you failed. Is there another option? Certainly. There are numerous cultures among other oriental countries where that big burden not only have to carry. For example in Japan, performing at work measured in what you deliver as a group. Not always easy, but much easier than what a similar individualistic culture imposes upon us. Because if everyone compare with others, soon everyone comes failure into view. You are always less successful than another, less beautiful, rich, whatever. If only everything is up to you as a loner, failure is also a personal message: you may not rascals?
Failure is economy
If a plan or idea fails, it is often a matter of numbers, of sober economy. The further we get into recession, the more people do not get what they are trying to get or achieve. Jobs, contracts, salary increase.. If you’re used to compete for contracts as an entrepreneur, it can be very difficult for a growing number of refusals to deal. This quickly leads to the feeling to have experienced not only a failure, but also to be! This picture is distorted. We look not so easy to failures of ourselves and others. That is not our ideal image. And yet it is a reality in life. But, please just watch. In our society, especially people come into the pictures that are successful. The rationale behind this is tempting, but unrealistic. On the one hand, it motivates us in magazines and on television again and again that picture of people who are successful in everything from love to work. On the other hand, it is a false image. As seen on TV or in a magazine many cheerful examples of people who seem to do better than ourselves, is committed just selection. Rejected for a job? In love? You can always rely on two things: there are many others like you, when you get a failure to collect in any area. And: more often it is a matter of circumstances than your own success or failure. (What you obviously should not deter the search for improvement to another time be best prepared for another chance!)
Failure is a coincidence
We all know the examples. The wealthy and now famous author of the Harry Potter books, JK Rowling, who finally had to go through for the success came countless rejections. And what a success! And then there’s a whole row of people who were rejected for training, jobs and other opportunities…. and yet so continued to believe in him that he had finally achieved what they wanted. Because if something succeeds or fails often depends on a person who have in front of you. That is why coaches sometimes haphazard groups together to run with their beautiful business plans to pursue other participants through questions like: “Will you finance my business?” “Will you help me with x or y?” By collecting random ‘yes’ and ‘no’ answers, you can harden against the feeling of failure. What helps you to continue anyway?
Failure is relative
What is failure? The ‘common denominator’ of what we want to achieve is in the recognized of our talent as a result the so-called worldly success. That’s just how we measure ourselves! But you’d have the world famous old movie “It’s a wonderful life”. The protagonist is ready to jump off a bridge: it is a failure, without great career, with money problems… and to make matters worse, he just had a fight with his wife and children. Then an angel comes to show him how much he has meant to his hometown, people around him, his wife and children, his friends and colleagues. Well that ends well, because the protagonist understands: failure or success is not that what we see as recognition through career, money, fame and so on. If you want your precious energy, effort and time indicates the people and things that count for you deeply, you can not actually fail.