What is the meaning of your life if you have to deal with limitations? Do you have a social function if you are chronically ill or feel sidelined? Who are you even if you have a disability or impairment?
For many people, does not life more if they are so limited that work or live independently in jeopardy. You say that at a time when you’re still healthy and can do everything, sometimes it changes when people actually get sick. Boundaries shift and trying reluctant to deal with the new situation. Others feel as if they still have to deal with limitations, of them do not remember. In such a statement sounds a tremendous fear by those permanent illness or disability and you can not imagine life than ever can be fun.
It is also the image we have as a society of people who are blind, in wheelchairs or otherwise disabled. Pathetic, no longer be independent, dependent, it is a bugbear of many people. That most people with disabilities that do not always experience will often fail, it is the specter: “never”. What is the meaning of your life if you have to deal with limitations? We can call this breakdown on the basis of the following questions:
Where I derive my identity
We derive our identity from things in our environment, to people around us and the things we do.
Someone who has a good job as a manager has an identity, someone who is an important link in the factory process also. They have a function as a worker in the factory or as a manager. Someone who does voluntary work owes as much identity to his activities as the mother who takes care of her children and therefore deliberately not working. By having an identity, it is not about what you do and whether that high office or not. The point is that you feel comfortable in what you do and what you do has meaning for others. The mother has meaning for her children, the volunteers for the elderly where he walks every day. Also the Director or the factory worker derives its identity to what he does and what he means to the company or society.
If you deal with this change limits the things you do. Some things can not and that also affects your identity. For the things that you can no longer go you might invent alternatives where you can perhaps derive identity again. That does not happen without a fight, you have to deal with emotions, it requires adjustment and you should again look for meaning.
Where will I myself happy?
Happiness depends, among others, with what is happening in your life. It is your right you will in most cases, be happy. Get your limitations with substantial than that disturbs happiness and fear and uncertainty are in the foreground and you’ll find an emotional roller coaster.
Luck you will need to recover again. That’s not easy and requires that you are paying attention to little things. Small steps forward, trying to find points of light, the love that you get from others, you’ll be actively looking. That takes time and energy and lasts one time better than other times. Do not hesitate to ask for help if you can not get to those points of light and positive things to see, you’re probably itself so firmly in your mind that it is not always possible to leave the underworld. Help of a professional can be supportive.
For who am I important?
We are not so often that we think about other important. Of course, for your children, your partner or family, you are important. But who else? Ask yourself for who you are important. Friendship is often so obvious but if that fails you realize what you’re missing.
Friendship, family ties, work or volunteer relationships, all relationships we have maintained, without maintenance dilutes a relationship.
Who has to deal with restrictions will sooner or later be faced with the dilution of relationships. Friends find it but you should keep in mind that they are always difficult, family members find that you’re not at work thinking they must appoint and that you do not insist that job. Unintentionally the relations become diluted therefore or change the contacts.
Take an active stance in which you dare to say what you need and how you can shape a different way and to give to the relationship. It will also ask yourself an active attitude to relationships and not to wait until the other comes to you. It will also ask of you not in the victim but to continue to be active and see what else you can put energy in and stabbing. You can not just continue to sit back and expect others to do to you. If you would have no restrictions would also be active in maintaining your relationships.
Unfortunately, that if you can no longer everything, you must do it one step harder to maintain relationships. But … ultimately it is the other or who goes on and can deal with your limitations. From the experiences of many people, friendships and relationships that sometimes you lose but you often others in return.
So take a good look around you and think for yourself for who you are important, look at the people around you and cherish the nice people. If you are important for another thus you give meaning to your life. Stop contacts that you can not get energy, life takes enough trouble already, and the energy you desperately need for them to survive.